Being a mom of 6 under the age of 11, homeschooling, running a full time business, training for a half marathon, and having a husband currently working out of state….yah, it looks like I have a lot on my plate. And many assume that there is a cape and magic involved.
Honestly, there isn’t. But I do accomplish a lot. And it’s done the exact same way that you can do it.
Here’s a behind the scene peek at how I “do it all.”
#1 – Everything that is on my plate is because I want it there.
My husband and I have defined the things that we value the most in our life and what we want for our family. It changes and evolves as we grow, but we adapt our lifestyle as our values and goals change. This helps us determine what we pile on our plates to get us to those goals. If it doesn’t serve the goals that we are working towards, we don’t take it on.
Everything that you put on your calendar and all the activities that you involve yourself in are there because you accept doing them. No one is forcing you to do anything. You aren’t under a dictatorship that tells you where to go and what to do.
YOU choose everything that you do.
So every time you are committing yourself to something — whether it’s a new business project, a birthday party or time in front of Facebook — you’re saying “Yes” to it. And when you say YES to something, you are also saying NO to another thing.
Sometimes, when we say YES to things we don’t need, don’t value or take us to our life goals, we are saying NO to the things that we do need.
Is it easy saying No? Absolutely. But only when you clearly know what you need. (Click to tweet that!)
If you find yourself piling things on to your calendar left and right, you might not have a clear picture of what you need in your life and which goals are most important. This takes some serious soul searching and mapping out.
#2 – I don’t do everything.
When I first started my business, I was everything. But as my business has grown, I have had to release areas of control and reach out for help with some of the things in my business and life. For my business to grow, I had to focus my talents on what I can do best to bring in the most amount of money so that I can pay others to help with the other things.
I now have an editor that helps me with everything that I put out into the world in written form. I have a virtual assistant that supports me in my business by taking care of all of my customer service. I have a designer that makes everything pretty so that I don’t have to spend hours in front of a computer tweaking things that can take her a few minutes. I have a bookkeeper that takes care of my business AND personal finances. I also hire others to do web/technical things for me, I hire business coaches to teach me so I don’t have to sift through a lot of information that takes up a lot of time — I can just get to the good stuff that applies to me most.
I am able to do the things that I am most gifted at because I surround myself with a very important support team. They make everything I put out in the world possible by maximizing every minute that I put into my business.
If you aren’t making a lot of money right now, look into hiring a friend who might be able to help you for just an hour or two a week.
There might be a stay at home mom that would be happy to help clean up your inbox, or package your orders and deliver them. There might be someone to help you categorize your outright.com account, which makes bookkeeping easy — you never know until you ask.
There are a million hidden talents on your Facebook friend list that might be more than happy to help you out for $20 an hour just once or twice a week.
And don’t forget — there are people who will happily be paid for folding laundry, cooking meals for your freezer, and maybe even doing your grocery shopping.
If you are struggling, please, reach out to someone for help. You aren’t going to get it until you acknowledge the need is there and express it. Otherwise, you’ll continue to struggle at it alone.
#3 — I maximize the time in my day by giving myself quality hours.
I have discovered that I am the most productive when I feel good, mentally, physically and spiritually. I schedule time into every day to care for myself. That means I get to bed early at night so I can have the best quality of sleep. When I have excellent sleep, I physically am capable of getting up early in the morning — before anyone else in my family.
I schedule time to exercise by running or doing a DVD workout every morning because it helps clear my head, and I feel amazing when I am done. I also schedule time to make sure that I have “me time” which I still can accomplish in the morning or evenings after my kids go to bed by book keeping, blog stalking, online shopping, etc…
When I have scheduled time in my day to meet my physical and mental needs, I can better focus on the things that require my energy throughout the day.
If you have been on schedule overwhelm, let’s take some stuff on your plate! In the comments, let us know the things you are struggling with and that you could use some help clearing off your plate.
If you would like some extra guidance helping you to determine what you need for your business to accomplish, you can download the free first chapter of my Happy Place Business Plan to get started.